Women Affairs

JANE E. BRODY To women who were taught that it is unladylike to express anger, the presumably therapeutic yelling and cursing of the current let-it-all-hang-out generation is often shocking. But now a major new study has strongly suggested that both the old style of keeping anger in and the newer tendency to release it explosively are equally poor ways of expressing this fundamental human emotion. Both responses can catch women in a vicious cycle of low self-esteem and depression and can worsen anger because the issues that provoke it are never resolved, the study findings indicate. Far more effective, the researchers found, is to calm anger through physical or mental activities and to discuss angry feelings, preferably with the person who touched them off. The study involved 14 researchers and 535 women from 25 to 66 years old, most of them white married mothers who work full time outside the home. The women, who chose to participate, were recruited from work sites, educational...

Kissing is probably one of the best things you can do with your lips. It’s not just the most passionate way of getting close to your partner, it’s also something that enlightens your mood and adds zing to your love life. So, what comes to your mind when you first think of kissing? A peck on the cheek or a passionate French kiss? Well, if you want to explore what turns on your mate or simply add creativity to your kissing techniques, here are some lip smacking ideas … Reverse lip kiss – Remember the sensuous kiss exchanged between Tobey Maguire and Kirsten Dunst in Spiderman ? You can re-create the sizzling kiss with your partner. Of course you can’t hang upside down like the famed super hero, so kiss your partner when he/she is lying down or seated. Come from behind and have them tilt their head backwards. Lower down your head and gently kiss their lower lip and feel your partner breathe on your neck. Abhishek, who works with a software company in Mumbai says, “My girlfriend really too...

It’s not just women who are lucky enough to have the ‘fabled’ G spot, the route to sexual satisfaction, for men too are gifted with the ‘pleasure zone’ - and the hot spot on the male body is prostate. Yes, you heard it right. After years of bedroom exploration and debate, an expert has come to the conclusion that when it comes to ‘male G-spot’, the prostate reigns supreme. As a man becomes sexually aroused, the prostate begins to swell with fluid, sending pleasurable sensations throughout his loins. These moan-worthy reactions get more and more intense, pulsating throughout a man’s loins as he approaches orgasm. However, digging for this piece of gold, which is the size of a chestnut, is not that easy. Therefore, Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright, who is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc, has provided some tips as to how to embark upon the ”treasure hunt” 1. Know what you’re looking for. The prostate, which is found wrapped around the urethra, bel...

David Wygant How can you charm a woman? Do they like a daily check-in phone call? Does she secretly wish you'd text her in the middle of the day for no reason but to make her smile? Do they prefer expensive dinners to home-cooked meals? Rock-hard abs? Flowers for no reason? Identifying women's turn-ons is complicated, because they all react differently. Some women you wish came with owner's manuals so you knew exactly how they were wired. Luckily, I've done most of the legwork for you and am happy to pass this knowledge on to you. 1. Be aware. This means cracking open more than the sports section on the daily paper. Be up on current events and learn the difference between feelings, emotions and thoughts. Women are emotional beings and tend to think things through. They are attracted to men who are as smart or smarter than them, and your knowledge of worldly matters will demonstrate your intelligence. 2. Demonstrate humor. Women love a man who can make them laugh. ...

Paris Hilton has revealed that she and boyfriend Benji Madden fell for each other before his split from his Australian fiancee Sophie Monk. The Hollywood heiress made the surprise admission during an exclusive interview with The Sunday Telegraph yesterday in Los Angeles. Hilton, 27, said she and the Good Charlotte rocker fell in love shortly after the January 11 birth of Harlow Richie-Madden, the daughter of her best friend Nicole Richie and Madden's twin brother Joel. "Ever since Harlow was born I was over playing with her and visiting Nicole and Joel - and we just fell in love right away,'' Hilton said yesterday. "We've been friends for seven years and he said he always had a big crush on me and when I finally became single it was great that we got together - it was the best.'' Hilton revealed that the couple had been together for "like 8 months'', meaning from mid-February. Monk's publicist announced on February 12 that she and Madd...

Brenda Yufeh Have you ever attended an "internet marriage"? By that, I mean a wedding which came as a result of using the World Wide Web to meet a suitable marriage partner. Statistics indicate that internet marriages are en-vogue nowadays. Although many people have not had the chance of attending such weddings, others have witnessed how many people met on different dating sites. Start dating, fall in love and get married. Why some people have ordeal stories to tell about internet marriages, others say it is not only a bed of roses but a gateway to find oneself in Europe or America. Some might say an internet marriage is risky. It could be, but many choices in life are risky. And it remains true: nothing ventured, nothing gained. A pastor recently said he knows of three couples that met on the internet and are now married. He also knows a fourth couple who plan to get married. There is another woman in her forties who is corresponding with two men who have shown some interest...

HOPING YOUR MAN IS A MIND-READER It may be a feminine game, but it won’t get you what you want. Men just don’t think that way, and it’s disrespectful to later blame them for something they could never figure out from such indirect communication. Drop the games and be direct. Effective communication is what will hold you in good stead. If you’re embarrassed to ask what you want, use language which makes your meaning clear. Though you may find it difficult to express your emotions, he’ll need feedback to make sure he carries on enthusiastically. Losing your self in your bliss and not saying anything will make him wonder if you’re asleep, dead or uninterested, at which point he is most likely to stop. RESENTING HIM WHEN HE DOESN’T GET IT RIGHT If you want more foreplay, then you need to say so. If he charges straight into your erogenous zones after a few minutes’ of petting and kissing, then you need to educate him about what you want. Men are much more quickly aroused than women on the w...

It is in mans nature to find his or her partner in life; unless of course the person has made a commitment to the Single for Life Club. Some people have a hard time trying to find a partner in their lifetime. Because of their difficulty in finding a partner, they eventually are forced to join for the Single for Life Club. Thanks to modern technology, the single people are slowly being driven to extinction. The internet has been able to connect people from all sites of the world to help them find the right person for them. Thanks to the internet a person two people from Tajikistan and Alaska may find love. The internet in a way has given single people a better chance to find the right person. The internet has been able to do these because tons and tons of dating websites have popped up. All of these dating sites aim to help a single person find the right person and connect people from all areas of the world. These dating websites require the single person to create his or her own profil...

Changing attitudes about love and marriage in rich Asian countries such as Taiwan, Japan and South Korea are pushing many desperate bachelors to seek out brides in other, poorer nations around the region. Many Asian men, particularly those in rural areas, tend to seek traditional wives who will stay home, doing chores and raising children, says Mika Toyota, a research fellow at the National University of Singapore's Asia Research Institute, and other experts who study the region. An economic boom in recent decades means women have options their mothers didn't. Better educated, they can have careers - and opt to stay single until Prince Charming shows up, if he ever does. "Most Japanese women would prefer to live and work in the city," says Jeff Kingston, author of Japan's Quiet Transformation. "A guy out there in the boonies . has a tough job selling the wonders of being a farmer's wife." Instead, the men increasingly seek women from countries such a...

Pierre Coda Bobby from Gainesville, Florida, writes, "I am pretty sure that I am a victim of my wife's adultery. I haven't made an effort to catch her. I have tried to talk to her about it and she denies it. Despite the fact that I'm not perfect, I feel I give her the things that she needs emotionally and physically. She has also admitted that I completely satisfy her. How can I find out why she is committing adultery and what should I do about it?" Adultery can have disastrous consequences on the relationship, particularly the impact it will have on your children, if you were to get a divorce. Thus, you are doing the right thing by trying to find what the reasons are so that something can be done about it. While you feel that you are doing everything that a good husband is supposed to do, there are still several reasons why a woman might resort to adultery: 1. She lacks moral values 2. While you feel that you provide her with what is needed, she feels otherwi...

The couple has been plagued with reports that claim that Brad and Angelina, who met while on the sets of their movie ‘Mr and Mrs Smith’, will soon be going their separate ways. Brad Pitt has finally spoken out himself to deny rumours that he and ladylove Angelina Jolie are on the verge of splitting. The couple has been plagued with reports that claim that Brad and Angelina, who met while on the sets of their movie ‘Mr and Mrs Smith’, will soon be going their separate ways. However, the ‘Troy’ star has broken his silence in an interview with the Mirror, and told the paper that he and Angelina were strong as ever. "Angelina is my love, my partner and the mother of my children. We're a normal family - a mother, a father and kids," the paper quoted him, as saying. Pitt also opens up about the couple’s kids, and admits that he and Jolie are ready to make another addition to their family. "Yes, we're ready for another," he said. "The kids are fantastic and th...

Some time after a failed marriage, you are just now re-entering the dating scene, but you are not sure how the rules have changed. These days, is it OK for a woman to ask a man out? And what's the best way to do it? Should a woman ask a man for a date? Conventional wisdom says, "No, it's the man's job to do the pursuing." Reality says, "Sure, why not?" And why not indeed? Because it works. I have met dozens and dozens of couples where the woman did the asking and the result is a happy, balanced, long-term life together. What's the best way to do it? Ask without asking. Use an indirect or soft question. Did you ever notice that if you say to someone, "I wonder what time it is," they'll tell you the time, even though you didn't directly come right out and ask for the time. Or if you say, "I don't know what kind of movies you enjoy," they spill the beans and tell you. When you use a statement like this, especially with qu...

Your wife, girlfriend or mistress said that you are boring in bed. She says that it's the same thing every time you two are together and that nothing ever changes. What do you do to spice things up for her and you too? Being boring or great in bed is in the loin of the beholder. And married sex can, in fact, become same time, same place, same everything. It often does. The problem with sex in a long-term relationship is that, quite often, couples keep on going with what worked before. We have compared this in the past to a dance routine executed in the same way over and over again. Once it was exhilarating, now it's just old and, yes, boring. You ask us what you can do to "spice things up." A good question. You've probably already heard all the aphorisms, like do it in any room in the house except the bedroom. Great, except if you live in a studio apartment in Manhattan. Or take a bubble bath together. Fine, but that idea gets old, too, and then a steamy bath stop...